maybe you've recently seen me acting weird, or out of character, or completely fucking nuts, and i need to know if something here is normal. i just had to delete some posts after doing something very stupid that probably should have had some thought applied to it, and coming from me that's quite a statement.
you've seen the injured breadwinner post i'm sure, here's an update on that.
he's walking right now, but he's not quite mobile. it's clear any ability to move right now comes at the cost of immense pain for him, that he's slowed down massively, that for a very long time he'll be healing and that right now he's injured and in very deep pain. i wasnt quite "angry" before, not like this, but actually seeing him physically hurting just sort of threw me over the edge of a cliff and right now i dont how to read my situation.
i need someone who isn't me to give me some advice here because the moment i try looking at this situation directly, i start getting angry on a basic biological level.
is it normal to look at family member who is injured, at the fault of no one, get a large amount of anger built up from the basic protective instinct of family, but not have anything to throw that anger at?
all i know is that if i could heal him back up to full health right now, at the cost of burning down voat and every single one of it's users i would say "yes" immediately as would every other person if put into this situation, i'm sure.
can someone not involved in my situation please tell me whether or not i'm completely off my rocker right now, or how to deal with these feelings?
it's literally impossible for me to look directly at this situation with a clear head right now, i need outside input.
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not_drunk ago
Sounds like frustration and not anger.
You can't directly change someone else's luck or healing.
But improving your health can prevent/reduce injuries.
Suggest preventative maintenance- Exercise, eat well, and be productive. You will feel better.
Lead by example.
theoldones ago
its very likely frustration. if it is that though it's a version that goes all the way down to basic family protective instinct, and it's overriding my normal sense of logic, and i dont know how to deal with this.
Hand_of_Node ago
How hard do you currently exercise? Set a goal to be physically prepared by exercising and physically exhausting yourself. You will both become stronger, and you'll work off that frustration. If you're not a member of a gym, there's plenty you can do outside that setting. Pushups, situps, crunches, jumping jacks, and etc. Do a search for: exercising without equipment
theoldones ago
there's a proper weightlifting bar i'd be using right now if it wasn't buried under literally 4 feet of snow. all i have right now is equipment-less exercise, and tiny-one hand weights (highest i have is 10 pounds).
it's been snowing like a motherfucker here all winter, everything's been snowed in and too cold to go outside. the windows on one side of the house have been snow-blocked for so long. i've been stuck here in cabin-fever mode and i'm so fucking restless it not's even funny
Hand_of_Node ago
Just grabbed that from the top result. All you need is floor space of about 6' x 8' to do it all. Here's the search: exercising without equipment
Choose whichever site works for you. The best thing about this solution is that you already need to be doing this anyway. You could go out and shovel snow too, but a daily session of these exercises is very likely to take some of the edge off of your frustration. In the common motivational parlance of voat, do it, faggot!
Fambida ago
Welcome to being human. Sometimes we have to watch those we love get old and die. Sometimes getting old happens early. It's not easy. It hurts a lot. And this won't be the last time either. Everyone you love will either die before you, or see you die. As you get older you'll see it happen more and more.
There is no cure, eventually you'll be so worn out from seeing everyone you love die that you'll long for it yourself. And one day, finally, you'll get the sweet release of death yourself.
theoldones ago
how the fuck do i deal with the fact stuff like this is going to happen over and over again, regardless of how i how try to help or intervene.
Fambida ago
There's nothing you can do. You toughen up.
CameraCode ago
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not_drunk ago
Best you can do.. prepare for the future.
You are not helpless. You are an intelligent and compassionate person.