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shizzle_mcbobblehead ago

Some quotes from Mr. Federici:

[The girl] needed a strong male role model. That’s why she was acting out so much. … You know why she liked me? The first time she wouldn’t come in. I dragged her in my office. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

I like those kind of kids who are non-compliant, that are non-responsive … avoidant, depressed, traumatized, psychotic, whatever they are. Those are my favorite kids. Because you know what? They do the best … sooner or later, they break. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

It is to be hoped that, as the child calms down, he or she will be very insecure, crying, and in need of emotional support and nurturing. Keeping a child in a more infantile state after a hold will serve as a starting point for moving toward appropriate attachment to the parent. — Help for the Hopeless Child (2003), p. 112

Total Adults Only. Isolation from any type of activity, friend or other sibling. Early bedtime, no talking to others, no television, play or any type of recreational activity. No hiding out in their room which is often preferred. Must stay in immediate sight and close proximity of parents or responsible adult at all times. Hard labor activities occupying any and all free time. Awakening early to begin work. Writing assignments or boring, repetitive tasks. Absolutely no stimulation. If parents must leave to go places, child must accompany them but not engage in any discussion or distraction. Again, Total Adults supervision, isolation and continual hard work is [sic] of paramount importance … — Help for the Hopeless Child (2003), p. 199

More often than not, the child will resist. At this point, one parent … applies gentle but firm pressure on the shoulder in a small “pinch” manner. (Remember Mr. Spock’s famous Vulcan shoulder grip from Star Trek? Think of this.) … Next, you instruct the child to go to his or her knees and ultimately lie face down on the floor … — Help for the Hopeless Child (2003), p. 110

As soon as you announce that a holding time is mandatory, a child will often say “I’m sorry, I won’t be bad again” or attempt to run away. To back down and allow the child another chance or to abbreviate the hold sets a precedent for continuing manipulation by your child to avoid a hold. — Help for the Hopeless Child (2003), pp. 109-110

S]he was cussing at me in Russian. I said, “Listen. You think that’s bad, hear this.” And I gave her a dose of her own medicine. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

Things that we use a lot are Pavlovian Classical Conditioning. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

Keep the child guessing. You owe no explanations. — Help for the Hopeless Child (2003), p. 117

It is also important for parents to remove any type of stimulation from the child’s room for the duration of Adults Only. This includes books, television, games and toys. Strip things to the bone and start over with the child. Emphasize that “nothing in the world is free” and that everthing must be earned. — Help for the Hopeless Child (2003), p. 108

T]ell him he’s going to stay longer and you’re never going to relinquish rights. You’re just going to keep him, declare him disabled and keep him home until he’s 50. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

I might bring [my children] to Iceland. They’re for show and tell. You know what they’ll tell those kids there? They’ll say, “Listen, let me tell you what my dad’s going to do if you don’t stop.” They’ll, they’ll scare them. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

People say, “Well, aren’t your kids getting ready for college there?” I said no. They’re not going to leave home. Because why? They missed forty years of life. Why would I want to send them out when they’re not ready? That makes no sense. So knowing that they need some extra time and training. Get out the old Barney book and pictorial books and show them what things mean. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

Forget school. If they never read, who cares. As long as their language improves. — “…Treating Multi-Impaired Attachment Disorders” (2004)

42times5 ago

This is simply horrifying.