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mrjdouble ago

This sucks, totally know what you mean. Depending on how deep you are willing to go into the proverbial rabbit hole, these people need to go. At least put to the back burner where you are still cool and can even do things together and have a good time once in a while, but based on their reaction, you will have to keep things from these people. Me personally? I don't subscribe to that, and if I have to compromise who I am to be someone else, or I can't talk about stuff I'm interested in or start important conversations I believe need to be had, then I'm gone.

As I'm getting a bit older, I find myself less interested to conform to my peers, or maintain pointless surface relationships no matter what the history. Might seem simplistic or cold, but I honestly believe that the basis of any healthy two-way relationship is a constant give and take. I've got to be able to do things for you or teach you something; anything to add value to your life and vice-versa. Otherwise, it's pointless.

If it ain't real, it ain't right.

Edit: spelling

gardenofbacchus ago

This is basically where I'm at now. I understand exactly what you mean. I have no interest in salvaging relationships purely for the sake of it when I don't share anything in common with these people. I can't sit around at another dinner while these people just spout mindless garbage they've read off Buzzfeed or WaPo and then take shots at me because I don't agree. They've been my friends for decades but being treated the way I have been recently for bringing this up has opened my eyes to this reality. We might share the same physical space but these people are spiritual strangers to me, that's sad but I'm ok with it

mrjdouble ago

People grow and that means they can grow apart. One one hand it's unfortunate, but on the other hand it's part of life and it only means that you've graduated to the next part or a deeper part of it and they haven't. Some never will; quite literally, it's like being red pilled in the Matrix. Everything you have ever known and loved is gone, and just like those people in the film, there are times of darkness and despair, but they also wouldn't trade it and go back for all the gold in the world.

I'm convinced that people are only in our lives long enough to help us learn a significant lesson. You've learned that lesson and now you can feel alright about moving on.