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16384383? ago
I just found out that my girlfriend of almost 10 years was cheating on me. She has been very secretive with her phone lately so I attempted to access her snapchat which I noticed was her most used app. She lunged over and turned off her phone so i couldnt access it. She changed her password which i used to know. I asked her what was in her snapchat and she refused to tell me. I told her either i see what's in there or I'm leaving. She didn't say anything and refused to open her phone. We lived together for years. Now I'm sitting in some parkinglot waiting for the sun to rise so i can try and move back in with my parents. I was going to propose to her onbour 10 year anniversary of being together. The only reasoning i could get out of her as to why she did it was that "i used to be a lot nicer." God knows what was on that snapchat. I'm fucked. I don't have any friends outside of work and living with my parents is beyond annoying with all sorts of rules and shit. I don't know where else to go. I have no one to talk to. I'll recover, probably, but this is just such a huge shock. I thought she was different and that we'd always be together.
16385181? ago
I know this situation seems awful right now because you have so much emotional tied in with this situation. So let me talk to you as I am not emotionally attached to this situation.
I don't know what your living situation situation is, all I know is that you live together so I'll assume you're moving to your parents because you don't own the home or you rent or something. I suggest putting the lease in her name or breaking the tenancy with her (assuming she is on lease). Immediately start applying for new places and start organising your items at your old place so you can move in one day. After that you do not communicate with her at all. Then to take your mind of her hit the gym, be with your friends and get on with it.
I've been through this before. It's not worth extending any further emotion, anger or time on. She cheated on you and would not be a good wife or mother to your children. Just fix the living arrangement as quickly as possible and everything else will fall into place.
16385186? ago
Just stay off Tinder obviously (which sounds like you will based off of your post). I know you said you wont go to church. However I would consider local clubs that may be supported by a church or community group.
You'll be fine mate. You have done the right thing so far so just stay on course.
16385583? ago
Yeah absolutely i am no degenerate. I treat any relationship as a vetting process for a future wife and mother. I'll continue down the path until I die whether i find a suitable spouse or not. What happened was just such an enormous blow to my ego. What i thought of as a traditional relationship turned out to be one of the millions of degenerate rouses plaguing our society. I asked her why she would throw away something so special, and like she was throughout the whole thing, acted completely catatonic- not saying a word. Good riddance. She was always a consumerist hedonistic brainlet. She only masqueraded as a traditionalist to appease me I suppose. One red flag i was noticing was her "multicultural" friends that she was making. She'd subscribe to literal faggot and tranny youtubers for makeup tutorials and shit. I thought i could steer her into a respectable mind and spirit but the degeneracy was much farther gone than i estimated.
16385584? ago
I understand that it feels like a blow to your ego. It sounds like there were a few red flags like the friends and Youtube subscriptions. However this is a learning process. You now will be more aware of these kinds of scenarios that should make you reconsider the situation and instead of spending many years in the relationship, it may only be weeks. It is natural to be forgiving towards the people we love when it comes to degenerate habits.
Think of it this way as well. From the sounds of it you are focused on self improvement and finding a good woman. She however, is more interested in satisfying her base sexual urges. Her argument of "You used to be nicer" or whatever it was is not even an excuse. It is her way of justifying and making herself feel better about what she did. How you feel is of no concern of her.
You should pity her, for she is a degenerate whore. In ten years time, it is she who will regret what she did. For you it will be the best thing that ever happened.
Hope this also helps.
16385585? ago
It does help tremendously, anon. You know, she had a friend that was obese, went keto and turned into a flabby stick, then had sex with any dick with a pulse. After a few years she got all fucked up psychologically over it and told me and my gf at the time that we were lucky to be in a stable long term monogamous relationship. Then my gf turns around and does the very same thing more or less. You're absolutely right about her coping strategy trying to paint me as the bad guy so she won't feel guilty. I work with her father so i wonder what his take on this is going to be. I reckon he's gonna be pissed off because not only do i help the family with labor and buying big shit like appliances and furniture but this guy suffered the same fate with his first wife. As a side note i suppose I'll have to go to the doctor to get std testing. Not even joking.
16386227? ago
Definitely get an STD check and maybe a blood test for Hepatitis C and AIDS. Not kidding either.
Your situation is similar to me (minus the cheating). I to this day still have a great relationship with my ex partners father (I think I talk to him more then her based on what he's said). If he likes you and respects you he will no doubt side with you. Yes, she is his daughter but if he has any sense he'll know what his daughter (and unfortunately the majority of woman) are like.
My only concern for you is if working with her father will put you in unwanted contact with her.
16409041? ago
I came back to the house, she was gone but her parents were there. They say they really want us to stick together byt i tokd them that was impossible. Her dad actually started to cry which I've never seen him do. God damn this is so fucked. We could have had a happy life together but her niggertier impulse control got the better of her.
16410070? ago
Dude, you cannot let your girl use a phone/snapchat/jewtube. These are all things that will take her away from being under your authority. That you ever allowed her to do such things was a fuckup waiting to happen. You have to have complete control over her. It should be the girl who worries that you might leave; if you give her too much comfort her behavior standards will drop, you will not counteract it, and it all ends as it did. Pic related.
16418653? ago
UPDATE
so i finally talked to her since that night i found out she was doing something i couldnt forgive. She admitted it was a coworker who she's been fucking for months. The only reason she explained was that this guy is nicer and gives more compliments. What a reason to throwaway a 10 year relationship. She believes that this honeymoon phase with this guy is going to last forever or something. What a stupid whore. At least I didn't marry her. Ever since that night she acts like our whole relationship has been shit saying i say mean things about her and don't compliment her. Trust me when i say it's 100% bullshit. She never communicated or acted that way. Holy shit.
16511498? ago
deep in her mind she knows she fucked up the relationship. She doesn't want to admit her mistakes tho
Her coworker will drop her sooner or later and she will suffer from great depression when she sees you succeeding in in life.
16518440? ago
My doctors office "just ordered further specialty testing for hiv." What should i do if my cheating whore ex gf gave me hiv? Anons?
16569538? ago
fuck without condom as many non whites as possible
(infecting a jew gives double points)
16569539? ago
This. Spread the love to those most deserving. Then maybe kill your ex on xbox live.
16424801? ago
She’s a bad liar and I hope you tell the coworker about her whoring behaviour discreetly so he get tested for std. A woman having sex with two men is dangerous. I wonder if she knew it’s risky?
16425432? ago
Yeah now she's telling me she desperately wants to be friends. i told her to go fuck herself. Apparently this guy knew she was with me the whole time and she tells me "he's clean." i asked how she knows and she "just knows." Yeah I'm still going to the doctors.
16426957? ago
Post script: i charged her adulterous behavior as being driven by lust and not emotion. I said "what, is it b/c his dick is bigger than mine?"
She said "no, it's not that." Ouch
16430089? ago
Dick size isn’t that big of a deal if you’re relatively around the average. Sounds like she just wanted someone to stroke her ego, not someone she would have to be accountable to. A decent female would be grateful to have s man to be accountable to
16425435? ago
Don’t fell for that. He wouldn’t hump her if he knew she’s a whore. No men want to have std for life unless they are degenerates. Regardless of what she said. Just tell the co-worker anyway and hire a lawyer to defend yourself from the laws or whatever as a caution. Maybe hire the private investigator to find out what her crime is then report her to the police station anonymously to prevent her from infecting men with her std.
16426959? ago
I don't know if I'm infected yet. Im going to get bloodwork tomorrow which was the soonest i could. We'll see.
16420444? ago
Fuck, good thing you got out of there anon, dubs confirm
16418656? ago
She's just trying to guilt you into getting back with her whore self. I strongly recommend minimizing contact with her and if you have to be in her physical presence to take a witness with you.
Have a vintage SRS story for your amusement friend.
16419677? ago
Thanks for the amusing image friend . that's real funny now how you mention that she's trying to get me to get back with her whore self. After this gaslighting about how mean and angry i was toward her i asked her for some examples. She gave me one example from 4 years ago where she commented positively about some faggot ass nigger singing somsome gay shit. I was pissed off because she was lying about hating the multicultural agenda. But yeah, 4 years ago. Then i delve deeper into her social media usage, telling her she's developing unrealistic expectations about relationships from staged shit, and giving her examples of all the times i sacrificed shit for her. Now she's like "oh wow see why didn't you tell me all this stuff a while ago?" Because you never said a thing, bitch! I warned you about faceberg! You stupid whore!!!!
Sigh
16410071? ago
Thanks for the read. You're right about the social media thing. I brought it up for years that her social media addiction was getting between us and she didn't budge. I tried teasing, mocking, most of all reasoning and it didn't change shit.