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King_Freya ago

Yeah, no. I went through chemotherapy when I was 2. One of 4 kids in the US to have the cancer I did at the time. Chemo and surgery to remove the tumor was what saved me. 40% chance of surviving it and here I am decades later. Chemo is shit, but so is cancer and I’d do it again if I had to.

Cannot wait to see the responses to this.

1_Lurking_Ungulate ago

Are you sterile?

Are you healthy?

If you are not healthy and able to have kids, then so what if you lived? Life is not about surviving. It's about purpose.

As people age and as the hedonistic enjoyment of things wears off, they find that purpose is what gives life meaning. It's damn near impossible to have purpose without children.

If chemo sterilized you, and in the unlikely event that you grow old, then you will probably find one day that you have no meaningful purpose. Being alive is not the same as living.

If you are the unprecedented example of someone who has gone through chemo and come out fertile and healthy, then I am legitimately grateful for your luck.

That said, from personal observation, most people stop living once they get cancer and all chemo does is make them live longer while living less.

King_Freya ago

I don’t expect to live to 80 anymore because of it. I think a study showed child cancer survivors live about 30% shorter lives.

Sucks for me. Something I’m still coming to terms with as I slowly get there.

However I am indeed healthy as can be. No health issues. And yes, my boys still swim just fine. Made a point to get that checked as I got older too!

I agree with the points you made all the same though.

Just felt like I had to share my experience on here as not many can/do in my position.

1_Lurking_Ungulate ago

Good for you, man. I highly recommend having kids since you can, if you haven't already.

If you do have kids, I recommend focusing on them rather than the mother. Too many men let the mother interfere with the father's relationship.