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Exactly why I thought it was pathetic my parents gave me a Christmas list of what they wanted. Not any small bullshit things - a dishwasher, computer, TV, etc. or I would be kicked out. I'll be telling my kids I want nothing but their love when I have my own.
That really is pathetic. The best you can do is just laugh at them and not take it seriously.
As long as you're not freeloading, ie you're working, studying, and saving your cash, they should feel shame for threatening to kick you out over that.
If it makes you feel any better, mine kicked me out at 19 because I got a motorcycle. Afterwards, she remarried, and sold part of the house to her new husband. She'll die soon (cancer), and then neither I nor any of my brothers will have anything as an "inheritance", because it's going to new husband.
Yeah, I pay for all my expenses: School, food, insurance, etc. I do feel like that's made me a better person (definitely not their intention) so I wonder how much I should help my kids out with their expenses. I'll figure it out.
It is something that lots of parents have to go through.
My father starting paying board to his family when he finished school and started working. Little did he know that they were keeping it all, and when it came time for him apply for a mortgage for his own house, they gave him back all the money that he'd paid over the years.
I think the best way of doing things is to act a little bit like a bank. So general day-to-day expenses they have to handle for themselves with part time jobs, but big things like houses, cars, etc. They should buy under their name, and their kids can pay the equivalent of what they'd pay to the bank every month, to the parents instead. Fall behind and you get evicted from the property until you catch up. Then either the balance between what they'd pay, and what the parent's paid (if the parents had to get a loan), or the full cost of the property and the title, can be passed on when the parents pass. And the kids can do the same when it comes time for their kids to buy a house or houses. This also guards against divorce rape if you kids made a stupid decision.
Either way things change over time. Right now you probably still need, or at least gain from, your parents assistance. Later when they're old, you won't need them, but they will want and need you. For this reason, it's a generally a good idea to take your children to see their grandparents, and if they're still alive, great grandparents, so that when you also get old, you won't be all alone, or only see your family once a year at best.
Its the basic things that we take for granted that are the most precious things in life. This is the foundation block for moving onwards and advancing in life. If you are not gracious for the small things you will not be thankful for anything.
Also a bit of admiration because when I was helping her grow magicmemes she messaged me one day about making /v/traditionalwives. I said if it is something you are passionate about do it. I will help you as much as I can.
I would comment only if appropriate as it was meant for wives more than husbands. She even asked me to be a moderator to which I denied because she seemed passionate enough about it that I felt she would make it.
Indeed she did and that confidence she got kept her around. So many people called her a tranny or other things to which I know bothered her. But she stood her ground and holy fuck if admin didn’t make it a featured sub.
Sure it isn’t a big thing to some, but imagine creating a sub that is of a relevant influence on this site that people know.....that is something. She has never and I mean never strayed from that message of the sub she created either.
First sentence above still applies. I'm glad we have someone like her on voat, and at the same time I'd kind of like to see her 'graduate' into the better life she deserves. If that makes sense.
Lol no we are not, but over the years we have become friends.
Let me tell you a story.
Through your life as with everyone else you will meet people be it in person or even without a personal meeting. These people you just know them and their intent as it is all patterns of behavior.
You can recognize these patterns be them good or bad, or even false. @empress is one of those people that actually is a good soul. Not a good person as that is a disservice to her character. She is like very few because her kindness goes beyond being a person.
She wants to make a difference in the world be it great or small and she doesn't care what it is long as it is for the better. Doesn't even have to be right or wrong because it is just something better.
I have spoken with her twice. Once before she was pregnant and then after she had her twins. You could hear the difference within her voice. It was the sound of happiness and motherhood.
Men get that proud feeling when they become a father and it is different. I know because it is what I felt. Those two are her world. They are all that matters now. She would do more than die for her kids.
She will love for them, and believe me when I tell you that a woman that would do anything including live for her children is one of the best, and yet most terrifying forces this plane of existence will ever know.
People die for shit all the time which is why it doesn't carry any weight when someone says that to me. Just some edgy tweenager bullshit people say to make themselves thing they mean it.
It is why I always say I will live for mine no matter what the cost to me. Makes someone take pause and think about what they value at times. Which is why I say that about her.
She is lucky to have a husband. Someone that took her by the reigns and slowed her down. Gave her direction and purpose. Gave her those two kids as well. I would be honored to meet her husband and her one day if I ever can.
It isn't often you meet genuine people in this world......not often at all.
I think I've grown much in perception, but you seem more perceptive than I. I will read your words again. They speak highly of you as well. Not often do I run across something this deep.
On this site where people are more occupied with the better insults or strung up words to be edgy....yeah it is rare. I have been a member of this site since the begining. You will have to use searchvoat as I deleted my comments and submissions of 4 years.
That was the loveliest comment ever. Thank you so much for those words <3
She is lucky to have a husband. Someone that took her by the reigns and slowed her down. Gave her direction and purpose. Gave her those two kids as well.
So so so so very true.
I would be honored to meet her husband and her one day if I ever can.
That was the loveliest comment ever. Thank you so much for those words <3
Didn't say it for anything else other than this commenter to know our relationship. I can see how many may find our interactions suspect lol. Thing is that on here as with all social media time goes at a different pace for most. I however remember most all of it due to how my brain works.
So so so so very true.
In all the time I have known you there is only two times I have seen you speak of your husband and they were in the same thread when you have the problem with the shoes. At least something personal.
We'll have to make that happen some day. Maybe when the kids are older and we're road tripping.
Well when that day comes I will be sure to have my sipping taqilla ready.
It depends on how the child comes to you with things. Sometimes they just need to rant about things not to get help with them but just need to voice it talk through it and then solve it themselves. Even for self sufficient people some jobs are better/easier done with help, for example changing a sink fixture is much easier and often faster if you have one above and one below instead of going back and forth. Many would say that two people working together talking and cleaning up leaves on two lawns is better then each person doing one lawn alone. Advice well two people will always have experienced different things, for example if I went camping I would ask advice from my parents for what to look for in the little details of a campground like if you are at the back end of a lane you will have less traffic or if you are not by the restrooms or main routes of traffic if someone isn't an early riser, or they may ask what is on each side of the campground for noise, while I'm thinking about what to pack or cooking utensils. There is also what is unsaid in this, that being that if you talk to them for the bad you are more likely to also talk to them for the good, just having open communication lines tends to lead to more communication flowing, and the more you talk the more likely you are to also visit.
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Jube ago
Exactly why I thought it was pathetic my parents gave me a Christmas list of what they wanted. Not any small bullshit things - a dishwasher, computer, TV, etc. or I would be kicked out. I'll be telling my kids I want nothing but their love when I have my own.
matthew-- ago
That really is pathetic. The best you can do is just laugh at them and not take it seriously.
As long as you're not freeloading, ie you're working, studying, and saving your cash, they should feel shame for threatening to kick you out over that.
If it makes you feel any better, mine kicked me out at 19 because I got a motorcycle. Afterwards, she remarried, and sold part of the house to her new husband. She'll die soon (cancer), and then neither I nor any of my brothers will have anything as an "inheritance", because it's going to new husband.
Jube ago
Yeah, I pay for all my expenses: School, food, insurance, etc. I do feel like that's made me a better person (definitely not their intention) so I wonder how much I should help my kids out with their expenses. I'll figure it out.
matthew-- ago
It is something that lots of parents have to go through.
My father starting paying board to his family when he finished school and started working. Little did he know that they were keeping it all, and when it came time for him apply for a mortgage for his own house, they gave him back all the money that he'd paid over the years.
I think the best way of doing things is to act a little bit like a bank. So general day-to-day expenses they have to handle for themselves with part time jobs, but big things like houses, cars, etc. They should buy under their name, and their kids can pay the equivalent of what they'd pay to the bank every month, to the parents instead. Fall behind and you get evicted from the property until you catch up. Then either the balance between what they'd pay, and what the parent's paid (if the parents had to get a loan), or the full cost of the property and the title, can be passed on when the parents pass. And the kids can do the same when it comes time for their kids to buy a house or houses. This also guards against divorce rape if you kids made a stupid decision.
Either way things change over time. Right now you probably still need, or at least gain from, your parents assistance. Later when they're old, you won't need them, but they will want and need you. For this reason, it's a generally a good idea to take your children to see their grandparents, and if they're still alive, great grandparents, so that when you also get old, you won't be all alone, or only see your family once a year at best.
HuginnOgMuninn ago
I teared up a little. Fucking jpeg artifacts.
Walk1 ago
Its the basic things that we take for granted that are the most precious things in life. This is the foundation block for moving onwards and advancing in life. If you are not gracious for the small things you will not be thankful for anything.
Stayedclassy ago
Right in the feels.
jesus_is_lord ago
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Soi_Boi_2k18 ago
What the fuck
AR47 ago
If no one else told you today.
You are an excellent mother.
Hand_of_Node ago
I am (practically) without words. Is this a genuine human friendship?
AR47 ago
It is.
Also a bit of admiration because when I was helping her grow magicmemes she messaged me one day about making /v/traditionalwives. I said if it is something you are passionate about do it. I will help you as much as I can.
I would comment only if appropriate as it was meant for wives more than husbands. She even asked me to be a moderator to which I denied because she seemed passionate enough about it that I felt she would make it.
Indeed she did and that confidence she got kept her around. So many people called her a tranny or other things to which I know bothered her. But she stood her ground and holy fuck if admin didn’t make it a featured sub.
Sure it isn’t a big thing to some, but imagine creating a sub that is of a relevant influence on this site that people know.....that is something. She has never and I mean never strayed from that message of the sub she created either.
Hand_of_Node ago
First sentence above still applies. I'm glad we have someone like her on voat, and at the same time I'd kind of like to see her 'graduate' into the better life she deserves. If that makes sense.
15622246? ago
Thank you, hon. <3
You're an amazing father. I know that.
AR47 ago
Thank you as well.
I got my moments when I want to leave him at a church. At least with kids we can attempt to change the world in ways we were not able too
NeoGoat ago
Are you and @Empress married?
AR47 ago
Lol no we are not, but over the years we have become friends.
Let me tell you a story.
Through your life as with everyone else you will meet people be it in person or even without a personal meeting. These people you just know them and their intent as it is all patterns of behavior.
You can recognize these patterns be them good or bad, or even false. @empress is one of those people that actually is a good soul. Not a good person as that is a disservice to her character. She is like very few because her kindness goes beyond being a person.
She wants to make a difference in the world be it great or small and she doesn't care what it is long as it is for the better. Doesn't even have to be right or wrong because it is just something better.
I have spoken with her twice. Once before she was pregnant and then after she had her twins. You could hear the difference within her voice. It was the sound of happiness and motherhood.
Men get that proud feeling when they become a father and it is different. I know because it is what I felt. Those two are her world. They are all that matters now. She would do more than die for her kids.
She will love for them, and believe me when I tell you that a woman that would do anything including live for her children is one of the best, and yet most terrifying forces this plane of existence will ever know.
People die for shit all the time which is why it doesn't carry any weight when someone says that to me. Just some edgy tweenager bullshit people say to make themselves thing they mean it.
It is why I always say I will live for mine no matter what the cost to me. Makes someone take pause and think about what they value at times. Which is why I say that about her.
She is lucky to have a husband. Someone that took her by the reigns and slowed her down. Gave her direction and purpose. Gave her those two kids as well. I would be honored to meet her husband and her one day if I ever can.
It isn't often you meet genuine people in this world......not often at all.
NeoGoat ago
I think I've grown much in perception, but you seem more perceptive than I. I will read your words again. They speak highly of you as well. Not often do I run across something this deep.
AR47 ago
On this site where people are more occupied with the better insults or strung up words to be edgy....yeah it is rare. I have been a member of this site since the begining. You will have to use searchvoat as I deleted my comments and submissions of 4 years.
adhdferret
15631466? ago
That was the loveliest comment ever. Thank you so much for those words <3
So so so so very true.
Ditto @AR47. Ditto.
We'll have to make that happen some day. Maybe when the kids are older and we're road tripping.
AR47 ago
Didn't say it for anything else other than this commenter to know our relationship. I can see how many may find our interactions suspect lol. Thing is that on here as with all social media time goes at a different pace for most. I however remember most all of it due to how my brain works.
In all the time I have known you there is only two times I have seen you speak of your husband and they were in the same thread when you have the problem with the shoes. At least something personal.
Well when that day comes I will be sure to have my sipping taqilla ready.
15627094? ago
No, but we're friends and I'm friends with his wife, too.
NeoGoat ago
Oh. Thanks for responding. Merry Christmas!
15628572? ago
Merry Christmas!
CRKT_M16Z ago
I bought myself what I wanted for Christmas ;)
DrEichmann ago
The greatest gift you can give a child is self sufficiency. This seems a little clingy but I get your point.
Thrus2 ago
It depends on how the child comes to you with things. Sometimes they just need to rant about things not to get help with them but just need to voice it talk through it and then solve it themselves. Even for self sufficient people some jobs are better/easier done with help, for example changing a sink fixture is much easier and often faster if you have one above and one below instead of going back and forth. Many would say that two people working together talking and cleaning up leaves on two lawns is better then each person doing one lawn alone. Advice well two people will always have experienced different things, for example if I went camping I would ask advice from my parents for what to look for in the little details of a campground like if you are at the back end of a lane you will have less traffic or if you are not by the restrooms or main routes of traffic if someone isn't an early riser, or they may ask what is on each side of the campground for noise, while I'm thinking about what to pack or cooking utensils. There is also what is unsaid in this, that being that if you talk to them for the bad you are more likely to also talk to them for the good, just having open communication lines tends to lead to more communication flowing, and the more you talk the more likely you are to also visit.
ShineShooter ago
Bah, glamping.
Nonymous608 ago
That's touching...very true...