It wasn't a serious comment - I don't know anything about his childhood, maybe they were decent parents. When he said "Boomers ruin everything" it's obviously a generalizations and doesn't mean that EVERY boomer ruins everything. Just like when you say that women are shorter than men, you don't mean to say that EVERY woman is shorter than EVERY man. It's a generalization. It's not a difficult concept to understand.
However in my experience "the best I could" is more often than not a poor excuse for laziness. When it comes to abusive parenting it can even be an excuse for cruelty.
After all I think it's fair to assume that you don't know about his childhood either and therefore you wouldn't know if they really tried the best they could. You don't know if they hit, abandoned or molested him. If they sexually abused him, which is a possibility (1/4 girls, 1/6 boys), it would be quite rational to blame them for his plight. Yet you immediately jumped to their defense.
Not sure I agree with the laziness, but more so as an excuse for a failure to raise them in general. And yes, as a parent that is one of the many important decisions in life.
And no, I do not assume I know about his childhood, that is why I asked. Comments like his often lead to "WTF?" moments. By producing another "WTF?" moment provoked an actually explanation. Not that difficult to understand.
As for assumptions, they usually lead to misunderstanding at least and dire situations at most.
The best one could is very different from "great" or even just "good". It might even still be a far stretch from "adequate". It strongly suggests that the best one could wasn't good or adequate enough.
The question is, is there really nothing parents that use this phrase could've done better?
Say, did both parents ensure that the other is the best mother or father they could've found and keep for their future child? Are they mentally stable? Did they come from dysfunctional families of their own and if so did they go through therapy or resolve it themselves? Did they keep mentally unstable people out of their lifes? Could they have read books about parenting? If their son or daughter had traumatic experiences or had issues (maybe they were born with some disorder or something) did they read a book about that or take counseling? Had they open communication with their child? Did they foster any talents?
There is usually always something that could've been done better, "the best" is an almost impossible to reach standard, but even when we reduce it to "good enough" which is reasonable to achieve it's usually laziness or convenience that prevents one from pursuing it. For example by spending lots of time watching TV instead of educating oneself about proper child raising.
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Ways2TellifYoureHomo ago
Boomers ruin everything
TexasDeplorable1135 ago
Uhhh, so they made you. Was that a mistake?
VoatsNewfag ago
They made him - and then they ruined him.
TexasDeplorable1135 ago
How do you figure? Tried to raise them they best way they could and now being blamed for his plight?
Not a very rational train of thought.
VoatsNewfag ago
It wasn't a serious comment - I don't know anything about his childhood, maybe they were decent parents. When he said "Boomers ruin everything" it's obviously a generalizations and doesn't mean that EVERY boomer ruins everything. Just like when you say that women are shorter than men, you don't mean to say that EVERY woman is shorter than EVERY man. It's a generalization. It's not a difficult concept to understand.
However in my experience "the best I could" is more often than not a poor excuse for laziness. When it comes to abusive parenting it can even be an excuse for cruelty.
After all I think it's fair to assume that you don't know about his childhood either and therefore you wouldn't know if they really tried the best they could. You don't know if they hit, abandoned or molested him. If they sexually abused him, which is a possibility (1/4 girls, 1/6 boys), it would be quite rational to blame them for his plight. Yet you immediately jumped to their defense.
TexasDeplorable1135 ago
Now that is an actual response.
Not sure I agree with the laziness, but more so as an excuse for a failure to raise them in general. And yes, as a parent that is one of the many important decisions in life.
And no, I do not assume I know about his childhood, that is why I asked. Comments like his often lead to "WTF?" moments. By producing another "WTF?" moment provoked an actually explanation. Not that difficult to understand.
As for assumptions, they usually lead to misunderstanding at least and dire situations at most.
VoatsNewfag ago
The best one could is very different from "great" or even just "good". It might even still be a far stretch from "adequate". It strongly suggests that the best one could wasn't good or adequate enough.
The question is, is there really nothing parents that use this phrase could've done better?
Say, did both parents ensure that the other is the best mother or father they could've found and keep for their future child? Are they mentally stable? Did they come from dysfunctional families of their own and if so did they go through therapy or resolve it themselves? Did they keep mentally unstable people out of their lifes? Could they have read books about parenting? If their son or daughter had traumatic experiences or had issues (maybe they were born with some disorder or something) did they read a book about that or take counseling? Had they open communication with their child? Did they foster any talents?
There is usually always something that could've been done better, "the best" is an almost impossible to reach standard, but even when we reduce it to "good enough" which is reasonable to achieve it's usually laziness or convenience that prevents one from pursuing it. For example by spending lots of time watching TV instead of educating oneself about proper child raising.