I quit watching porn months ago, man.

The reality was that most of the videos I found online had titles, just like this one does, that included words like “bitch” or “slut” and showcased controlling behaviors that were rooted in a culture of subjugation and objectification, where women are nothing more than sexual bodies to be exploited and dominated by men.

Just to be clear: I don’t think all porn is bad. I’ve seen some great videos of couples engaging in intimate and respectful sexual encounters – of course, these are often only found on feminist porn sites or in the “female friendly” category. (It’s interesting to note what the category name “female friendly” implies about all the other categories).

But since dropping porn, even female friendly porn, I have restored a sense of personal integrity that was missing. I’ve noticed that I am often able to stay more present with women now, rather than projecting fantasies onto them.

This was hard to do when my mind was cluttered with images from porn videos. This newfound presence has also allowed me to begin to dismantle some of the subconscious sexism that I’ve held, helping me work toward becoming a better ally to the women in my life.

Of course, women and girls are not the only ones hurt by sexual violence. I’ve heard stories from a lot of guys who are also affected by cycles of violence and abuse that got passed on through generations.

It is important, however, for me to recognize that far more women than men are victims of sexual assault and domestic abuse, and that men account for a vast majority of all perpetrators.

Sorry if this was a bit of a rant, but seeing the Pornhub website again, I WAS THIS CLOSE, LIKE 99% CLOSE, TO RELAPSING.

It's tough. I admit it. But in the end, NoFap is one of the most self-rewarding things a man can do. Trust me, you won't regret NoFap the way you regret Trump ;)