I have read most of it. The psychologist who told him that boys/males can't be raped should not be allowed to counsel anyone.
He sounds pretty legit. He's been groomed and conditioned.
People should remember that children who are sexually abused & rape often do not object and enjoy some part of it. But that doesn't mean it's not rape. It's always rape because children do not have the ability to know what they're consenting to. The grooming starts off by talking about intimate things, then touching and tickling, getting closer to private body parts. The 'cuddling' turns into other things. That is why anyone who's been abused as a child has such shame. It's shame because you may have physically reacted to the touching. A boy might get an erection but that doesn't mean he is will to have sex with someone. This is how 'sex workers' are made, as most were abused as kids.
The abuse has changed his brain. He can't view the world the way people with normal, loving childhoods do. The trust issue is HUGE. There'd be lots of abandonment issues with being taken from his family. The hate he feels for the people who abducted him is mixed with love for the little love they did show him. That's why this stuff really messes with your head.
I Read through that entire thread and I have no doubt it is legitimate.
I knew about a dozen guys who were in NAMBLA (they were incarcerated at the time). Without exception, they ALL experienced what they considered "loving" attention from older men that incorporsted sexual activities.
As such, the conflation between caring and physical pleasure become intertwined.
This is a prime reason organizations such as Boystown and Sandusky's Second Mile foundation provide fertile hunting/grooming grounds for these perpetrators.
There is actually a biological component to this as the physical nerve system responds to these activities in developing youth.
Yes, of the women who are lesbians, most have been sexually abused in childhood. I would say that a large proportion of gay men were sexually abused as kids too. This is why I think that we are not necessarily born heterosexual or gay, but it often depends on our first sexual experience.
Kids from vulnerable backgrounds are easy pickings, because their hearts are aching to be loved. They also have no one to protect them. Predators know this.
The saddest part is feeling misunderstood for one’s entire life. For wanting to marry a partner who can fix you but knowing full well that a normal person doesn’t know what to fix in the first place, nor how badly you need fixing. Abandonment issues are there without even realizing it. So sad bc the harm is irrevocable and the perpetrators know it and do it anyways.
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Piscina ago
I have read most of it. The psychologist who told him that boys/males can't be raped should not be allowed to counsel anyone.
He sounds pretty legit. He's been groomed and conditioned.
People should remember that children who are sexually abused & rape often do not object and enjoy some part of it. But that doesn't mean it's not rape. It's always rape because children do not have the ability to know what they're consenting to. The grooming starts off by talking about intimate things, then touching and tickling, getting closer to private body parts. The 'cuddling' turns into other things. That is why anyone who's been abused as a child has such shame. It's shame because you may have physically reacted to the touching. A boy might get an erection but that doesn't mean he is will to have sex with someone. This is how 'sex workers' are made, as most were abused as kids.
The abuse has changed his brain. He can't view the world the way people with normal, loving childhoods do. The trust issue is HUGE. There'd be lots of abandonment issues with being taken from his family. The hate he feels for the people who abducted him is mixed with love for the little love they did show him. That's why this stuff really messes with your head.
Onetime1 ago
That is an excellent description.
I Read through that entire thread and I have no doubt it is legitimate.
I knew about a dozen guys who were in NAMBLA (they were incarcerated at the time). Without exception, they ALL experienced what they considered "loving" attention from older men that incorporsted sexual activities. As such, the conflation between caring and physical pleasure become intertwined.
This is a prime reason organizations such as Boystown and Sandusky's Second Mile foundation provide fertile hunting/grooming grounds for these perpetrators.
There is actually a biological component to this as the physical nerve system responds to these activities in developing youth.
Piscina ago
Yes, of the women who are lesbians, most have been sexually abused in childhood. I would say that a large proportion of gay men were sexually abused as kids too. This is why I think that we are not necessarily born heterosexual or gay, but it often depends on our first sexual experience.
Kids from vulnerable backgrounds are easy pickings, because their hearts are aching to be loved. They also have no one to protect them. Predators know this.
Joe10jo ago
The saddest part is feeling misunderstood for one’s entire life. For wanting to marry a partner who can fix you but knowing full well that a normal person doesn’t know what to fix in the first place, nor how badly you need fixing. Abandonment issues are there without even realizing it. So sad bc the harm is irrevocable and the perpetrators know it and do it anyways.
Piscina ago
Yes, exactly. They do it knowing that it's criminal and knowing the harm it causes the child for a lifetime.