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In2wishun2 ago

I’d like to ask how someone will be able to get over the past abuses and live happily. Therapy did not help, medication did not help, nothing seems to help.

unstoppable ago

I am yet to find an answer to that one, until yesterday I used to smoke around an oz a week... Today I quit and so here I am talking about my past. I am not sure if this is cathartic or will leave me with a sense of regret. Exercise used to be my thing until I got lazy.

Although I am left with a profound sense of hate and my family has been pretty much torn apart, continuing to express myself in any way and drawing a much needed line in the sand is like therapy. I can't change the past but I certainly can screw my future thinking about these things. Or something to that effect. There is a lot of guilt when you have suffered abuse, like you have somehow brought it on yourself but that is nonsense and wickedness talking, evil continuing.,

Eat well, talk lots and exercise. You literally decide how YOU want your future to be. We cannot move on as victims, we need to take control of ourselves and with that, take all the credit when we succeed. Forgive the monsters as they are already living in hell but do not rally to excuse them either. I hope you get it worked out and move on towards peace. I will be damned if I let them ruin my life. I am ruining for myself at present but that will change. Watch this space

In2wishun2 ago

Thank you. Your statement about not being to change the past but being able to screw the future certainly makes me think. I need to work on being present in the future.

unstoppable ago

Literally draw a line. Partition that stuff off and set aside days to think about these things but not weeks, and on a clear head, free of drugs and drink. There literally is only now pal, I am thinking about you.

Cc1914 ago

I read your story last night and I know how it is to not have all the pieces all too well . Coming to voat helped me understand a lot about my past and how evil people work . What ultimately gives me hope for the future are Gods promises found in the Bible . Rev 21:4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more,neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.ā€ ... this is how it will be after Armageddon! Knowing this life is not all there is , is the only reason I’m still alive .. my point is not to push religious stuff , I just wanted to share what truly helped me . I am thinking of you and others who have commented here when I pray šŸ’œ

unstoppable ago

That is very kind of you and appreciate it a lot! I really am not alone here, so many people with the same experience that it is both comforting and disturbing at the same time. That said, this is cathartic talking with like minded people. Thinking of you too pal, I hope everyone's future is looking bright