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ponyfriend ago

in the gay "hankey code" white can stand for virgin so you pretty much NEVER see it, lol. unspoken rule might be that white in reality stands for underage, but you'd never see anyone admit to that.

and black means "heavy SM" which if you take it to the logical extreme is death/killing, like in a snuff film.

thus a black and white hankey might signify the torture and/or killing of virgins.

sorry i know this is dark and terrible just giving you the "gay hankey code" interpretation. this is a real code that has been around for decades and it hasn't been changed at all as far as i know.

Are_we__sure ago

Virtually none of that is true. This is completely your speculation.

ponyfriend ago

go to san francisco, go to the castro district or folsom street, go to the gay leather S&M shops and you'll find they sell the colored hankerchiefs and they have a little poster or sign that explains what each color means. usually they don't sell or explain white because nobody in the gay scene is openly into that. the black color just stands just S&M so i'd imagine it is a popular color. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code

Are_we__sure ago

go to san francisco, go to the castro district or folsom street, go to the gay leather S&M shops and you'll find they sell the colored hankerchiefs and they have a little poster or sign that explains what each color means.

I know that a handkerchief code exists. I'm saying everything you are saying about it is wrong.

in the gay "hankey code" white can stand for virgin so you pretty much NEVER see it, lol. unspoken rule might be that white in reality stands for underage, but you'd never see anyone admit to that.

and black means "heavy SM" which if you take it to the logical extreme is death/killing, like in a snuff film.

First off SM is not about death or killing, even heavy SM is not. You are wrong here. The fact that you think that is logical is quite something.

White means hand jobs/masturbation. Other variations on white could mean voyeurism, none have to do with virginity.

WHITE beat my meat (J/O) I'll do us both (J/O)

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thus a black and white hankey might signify the torture and/or killing of virgins.

Nope.

BLACK w/WHITE Check safe sex top safe sex bottom

Mrs_Ogynist01 ago

White wedding dresses means the bride is a virgin, but yeah, I'm sure in the gay scene it only means hand jobs. Lols

Are_we__sure ago

White wedding dresses means the bride is a virgin, but yeah, I'm sure in the gay scene it only means hand jobs. Lols

oh my. Are you not aware that things have different meanings in different contexts? Because that's a basic part of human life.

Do you think during the Indy 500 when the white flag comes out, they are indicating the driver is a virgin? Or when the checkered flag comes out, it means the driver is into safe sex?

Mrs_Ogynist01 ago

White wedding gowns are representation of the bride's SEXUAL virginity. Gay handkerchiefs are used to represent SEXUAL preferences. Same context.

Are_we__sure ago

Not the same context whatsoever.

The hankey code evolved in a particular subculture, (you could argue a subculture within a subculture as most gays wouldn't need such a detailed list) and involved facilitating sexual encounters by strangers. The whole point of "flagging" was to communicate preference before you spoke to each other. (Another reason it makes no sense it the context of a small group of friends. And it was a tea towel anyway.)

A marriage is a very social and public event.

There's simply no reason, to expect the colors to be consistent. Does a widow wear black because she's into S&M?

So there this. And there's the fact that the actual codes spell out the meaning, we don't have to speculate.

White wedding dress were not really a thing until the middle of the 1800's. Queen Victoria wore white. Mainly because she had some white lace she favored. Ironically, this was seen as inappropriate because white was the color of mourning back then. Purity was supposedly symbolized by blue. It was after Queen Victoria's wedding that a woman's magazine invented the we should wear white as a symbol of purity.

Mrs_Ogynist01 ago

Okay