I want to Vomit. Here is what they are putting up with. Anyone arriving at Oxfam HQ this week unaware of the headlines would have guessed at once that something was horribly wrong. Staff looked shell-shocked; the silence was the stunned hush of a sudden bereavement. One small team accustomed to handling 200 or so emails a day was overwhelmed by an inbox running into thousands. Social media staff appeared close to tears, deluged by a relentless torrent of outrage and abuse, dismay and disappointment. The chief executive couldn’t even bring himself to look. “I couldn’t cope with everything that’s out there. It hurts,” he says. Mark Goldring hasn’t slept for six nights and he looks stricken. “The last six days have been the most intense and challenging of my life.” IT HURTS? What do you think it feels like when a Child Is Raped? It Hurts, Like Hell! The last six days have been the most challenging in his life? How abut reliving that rape over and over all day long, for 24 hrs. a day. Day in and Day out. For the Rest of Your Life. I would send him to confession, but the priest would probably pardon him. This makes me so sick I can't get past the first paragraph.
Caught probably with his pants down? The Emperor with no clothes? Finally the truth is coming out and he is scared stiff. I hope there is a huge investigation and this guy and all those rapists go to the Slammer.
Sorry, I erased my original response and just put a general comment, but yeah. Charity orgs should have a general policy of zero tolerance and complete public transparency. Foolish donors need to start insisting, and insure their money is not going to evil.
No one should get an exemption. I am sick and tired of org. sliding under the radar. The Churches are have been taking a free ride far too long. Decades and decades ago they did some good work feeding the poor, etc. but they now they pocket the money. I have no sympathy for them anymore. It must end.
I believe that there might be some small churches that are doing some good, but I feel that now that my husband and I have stopped giving to any of the other charities, we can start giving to Food Pantries and other local charities that help the poor. We already gave to our Food Pantry and bring groceries or other Food Drives. There are ways that we can free up our money also by not throwing money into that Collection Plate. Give straight to those people in your own city or town.
I don’t see any way around it. I drive around sometimes with extra stuff in my car just to pass out. I don’t trus any organizations asking for money. I don’t have much to share anyway... it’s different here in Mexico.. there are tons of beggars... and they have bosses, taking most of their gains every day. For that reason, I focus on taking care of the ones I need my sphere, and I contribute things instead of cash. One thing that I have to remember: I can’t save the world. God’s got that covered. The world right now is “in the hands of the wicked one” so his solutions aren’t gonna last. The victims of this system will get another chance. God’s got a plan, I just need to act in accord with and try to be ready for it, even if I don’t understand it all.
What kind of things do you hand out? I agree in Mexico there is much begging, we handed out the smallest of change, but sometimes nothing. We don't eat fast food, but we have stood out in front of MIcky D's in Mexico and fed the little kids that beg out front. We ask them if they want a burger, and Bingo! they do. Have not been back though for 7 yrs.
Just extra clothes or food whenever I can. Once recently, Icame home from work with a cake, but we don’t need more sweets in my house, so I gave the cake to some kids begging in the street. It was great to see their faces. Other times, I have nothing. I feel sad, but I have my own kids. While others are being selfish and ignoring those that they are responsible for, it comforts me to know that I am doing what I can. Often, they pass through the neighborhood, tapping on every door. Some are druggies, but ALL are poor. It’s sad.
That is such a wonderful thing you did. Yes! We do not discriminate against druggies. We give to all. I was walking home from a meeting and met a woman with all her belongings in a shopping cart. It just broke my heart. I went past her and realized, There but for the Grace of God, go I. I knew I had little money with me, but I chased after her and opened my wallet. I gave her all my change and $2. She was in Complete Shock. She profusely turned me down saying I needed my money too. I said No, I have more at home, when you spend this money you can't go home to get more. She took the money. I am so glad I pushed her to take it. She looked parched and hungry. I wish I had a bottle of water. There were not any restaurants either. I would have fed her and charged it. I have done that before. Not always but every once in a while. I now know where my charity is going. To Real People.
Your heart is in the right place. It’s certainly good to give, when our conscience moves us. Sometimes, I try to understand why we can’t always do that. I know I want to, and certainly, I drive by sometimes and do nothing thing. I know sometimes I just get exasperated and burned out. It’s like “dang, there’s so many!” I can’t give a buck to all of them. Then I’ll be in the same spot and I have kids to feed.... I used to blame God and get angry about this. With time I realized that that isn’t the issue. God wants to help, but if He ended all of the problems today, they would just come back. This is why Jesus only did the loaves and fishes thing twice. People started following him for the food, and ignored the spiritual things. God is reaching down, trying to help, but we need to reach up too. If everyone acted like a family, with God as dad, we would be doing a lot better down here.
I agree. Some complain about God. Why does he let all this happen, why are there so many poor people? Same thing they say about the govt. Why is the govt. not helping. We have to take care of our neighbors and chip in. Yes, there are things that only the govt. can do, but many people are shirking their responsibilities. It is easier putting a check in an envelope or giving on line than going to the store and getting a bag of groceries and taking them to your Food Pantry or dishing out soup at a Soup Kitchen. It's all about Showing Up. :)
Exactly. I think the distinction between the government and God is important, though. If we believe God is all powerful and all-knowing, then repairing the damage, healing the victims and restoring the dead is a simple matter; thus keeping His promises to the ones that love him. He gets to take a long view of things. The hard part is to accept that this evil, while temporary, is happening around us. Why? Because every day that passes, more and more are finding God. The spiritual void of this system is waking some up. Those precious few that are changing their ways are the only reason that kind and loving God allows suffering, IMO.
EDIT: I guess it is probably also important to respect those doing their best with the imperfect tools that they have, i.e. government.
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carmencita ago
I want to Vomit. Here is what they are putting up with. Anyone arriving at Oxfam HQ this week unaware of the headlines would have guessed at once that something was horribly wrong. Staff looked shell-shocked; the silence was the stunned hush of a sudden bereavement. One small team accustomed to handling 200 or so emails a day was overwhelmed by an inbox running into thousands. Social media staff appeared close to tears, deluged by a relentless torrent of outrage and abuse, dismay and disappointment. The chief executive couldn’t even bring himself to look. “I couldn’t cope with everything that’s out there. It hurts,” he says. Mark Goldring hasn’t slept for six nights and he looks stricken. “The last six days have been the most intense and challenging of my life.” IT HURTS? What do you think it feels like when a Child Is Raped? It Hurts, Like Hell! The last six days have been the most challenging in his life? How abut reliving that rape over and over all day long, for 24 hrs. a day. Day in and Day out. For the Rest of Your Life. I would send him to confession, but the priest would probably pardon him. This makes me so sick I can't get past the first paragraph.
GreenDell144 ago
He’s bereaved because he knows he got caught. I bet the French nobility had the same look during the revolution.
carmencita ago
Caught probably with his pants down? The Emperor with no clothes? Finally the truth is coming out and he is scared stiff. I hope there is a huge investigation and this guy and all those rapists go to the Slammer.
GreenDell144 ago
Sorry, I erased my original response and just put a general comment, but yeah. Charity orgs should have a general policy of zero tolerance and complete public transparency. Foolish donors need to start insisting, and insure their money is not going to evil.
carmencita ago
No one should get an exemption. I am sick and tired of org. sliding under the radar. The Churches are have been taking a free ride far too long. Decades and decades ago they did some good work feeding the poor, etc. but they now they pocket the money. I have no sympathy for them anymore. It must end.
GreenDell144 ago
1000% agree
carmencita ago
I believe that there might be some small churches that are doing some good, but I feel that now that my husband and I have stopped giving to any of the other charities, we can start giving to Food Pantries and other local charities that help the poor. We already gave to our Food Pantry and bring groceries or other Food Drives. There are ways that we can free up our money also by not throwing money into that Collection Plate. Give straight to those people in your own city or town.
GreenDell144 ago
I don’t see any way around it. I drive around sometimes with extra stuff in my car just to pass out. I don’t trus any organizations asking for money. I don’t have much to share anyway... it’s different here in Mexico.. there are tons of beggars... and they have bosses, taking most of their gains every day. For that reason, I focus on taking care of the ones I need my sphere, and I contribute things instead of cash. One thing that I have to remember: I can’t save the world. God’s got that covered. The world right now is “in the hands of the wicked one” so his solutions aren’t gonna last. The victims of this system will get another chance. God’s got a plan, I just need to act in accord with and try to be ready for it, even if I don’t understand it all.
carmencita ago
What kind of things do you hand out? I agree in Mexico there is much begging, we handed out the smallest of change, but sometimes nothing. We don't eat fast food, but we have stood out in front of MIcky D's in Mexico and fed the little kids that beg out front. We ask them if they want a burger, and Bingo! they do. Have not been back though for 7 yrs.
GreenDell144 ago
Just extra clothes or food whenever I can. Once recently, Icame home from work with a cake, but we don’t need more sweets in my house, so I gave the cake to some kids begging in the street. It was great to see their faces. Other times, I have nothing. I feel sad, but I have my own kids. While others are being selfish and ignoring those that they are responsible for, it comforts me to know that I am doing what I can. Often, they pass through the neighborhood, tapping on every door. Some are druggies, but ALL are poor. It’s sad.
carmencita ago
That is such a wonderful thing you did. Yes! We do not discriminate against druggies. We give to all. I was walking home from a meeting and met a woman with all her belongings in a shopping cart. It just broke my heart. I went past her and realized, There but for the Grace of God, go I. I knew I had little money with me, but I chased after her and opened my wallet. I gave her all my change and $2. She was in Complete Shock. She profusely turned me down saying I needed my money too. I said No, I have more at home, when you spend this money you can't go home to get more. She took the money. I am so glad I pushed her to take it. She looked parched and hungry. I wish I had a bottle of water. There were not any restaurants either. I would have fed her and charged it. I have done that before. Not always but every once in a while. I now know where my charity is going. To Real People.
GreenDell144 ago
Your heart is in the right place. It’s certainly good to give, when our conscience moves us. Sometimes, I try to understand why we can’t always do that. I know I want to, and certainly, I drive by sometimes and do nothing thing. I know sometimes I just get exasperated and burned out. It’s like “dang, there’s so many!” I can’t give a buck to all of them. Then I’ll be in the same spot and I have kids to feed.... I used to blame God and get angry about this. With time I realized that that isn’t the issue. God wants to help, but if He ended all of the problems today, they would just come back. This is why Jesus only did the loaves and fishes thing twice. People started following him for the food, and ignored the spiritual things. God is reaching down, trying to help, but we need to reach up too. If everyone acted like a family, with God as dad, we would be doing a lot better down here.
carmencita ago
I agree. Some complain about God. Why does he let all this happen, why are there so many poor people? Same thing they say about the govt. Why is the govt. not helping. We have to take care of our neighbors and chip in. Yes, there are things that only the govt. can do, but many people are shirking their responsibilities. It is easier putting a check in an envelope or giving on line than going to the store and getting a bag of groceries and taking them to your Food Pantry or dishing out soup at a Soup Kitchen. It's all about Showing Up. :)
GreenDell144 ago
Exactly. I think the distinction between the government and God is important, though. If we believe God is all powerful and all-knowing, then repairing the damage, healing the victims and restoring the dead is a simple matter; thus keeping His promises to the ones that love him. He gets to take a long view of things. The hard part is to accept that this evil, while temporary, is happening around us. Why? Because every day that passes, more and more are finding God. The spiritual void of this system is waking some up. Those precious few that are changing their ways are the only reason that kind and loving God allows suffering, IMO.
EDIT: I guess it is probably also important to respect those doing their best with the imperfect tools that they have, i.e. government.