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Votescam ago

Thank you for letting us know about this movie ... There's a lot of course that's not said ...
like the suggestion that this went on for 35 years. I'd like to know her view on that -- and his.

Does the movie every address anything that is know about what he is thinking during this time? Whether he's a pedophile which seems to be the case? And what Mrs. G has to do with all of this.

It took me back to my early years and what I was thinking and feeling about human sexuality. Males I knew. One I'd had a crush on since I was 5 or 6 years old. But that was a crush - not anything like what happens in this movie.

I always had an awareness, however, of the threat of being raped -- sexually abused. My Mother had related a story to me of an older man trying to fondle her when she was young. A neighbor. Later, when I was 6 or so, playing on the NY streets one even just before we were all being called in for dinner, a male approached me and asked if I'd read him the address on a mail box. It was a small open lobby so I wasn't concerned as we were basically still visible from the street. But then when I couldn't read it, he picked me up and I didn't like where his hand landed. I wiggled out and on home. A little difference in timing, a little difference in dusk being darkness. Fewer children on the street still who would have heard me call ... and who knows what might have happened. There are other stories I've long been thinking about.

Since the review is very optimistic on the way the story was presented, I'll take that as fact and will try to see it. Also I'm a fan of Ellyn Burstyn and her acting/movies.

Piscina ago

It's not odd that the *relationship went on into her teen years. That's the mindfuck that is grooming and child abuse...you think you're complicit. That's why you feel shame. Some part of you tells you it's fucked but he's bound you to him and you think it's love.

Votescam ago

Piscina --

A PEDOPHILE is interested in children of specific ages -- Pedophilia is all about the AGE of the child ...

There are different names for those who are interested in a 4 year old -- and different names for those interested in a 8-9 year old ... and other names for pedophiles interested in teenagers who are still minors....

And THIS relationship went on for thirty five years ... !!!

What I'm saying is that this case is quite different from what we're discussing here .. child trafficking and MKULTRA ...

Torture of children, as well.

I agree that this kind of rape and sexual abuse does exist -- but it doesn't have a lot in common with the stories the public is more familiar with -- and the stories we deal with here.

However, on the level of the trauma and PTSD that all victims of sexual abuse/rape suffer it is what they all suffer. And, sadly, it is life long. I do think that being able to tell the story also helps, especially when they are believed.

Shizy ago

Wow you are always all over the place with your thinking, and always missing the points others try to make. One thing you are consistent with is the rigidness of your thinking. You seem to be confused about what you perceive the larger public to think of regarding child sexual abuse with your own personal experience. You make it really easy to point out the flaws inyour reasoning and comments, but now I'm seeing that you really are the suffering victim I just thought your "feminism" ideology was telling you that you should be.

For your own sake, you really DO need to find a good therapist and work through your issues, they are obviously not resolved and it seems to be effecting you. This isn't my usually snark, this is the truth.

Votescam ago

Actually what I am saying to you is based in studies -- not my thinking.

I don't study this issue myself -- any more than you do.