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Kacey ago

Perhaps we need two terms, one for people who feel attracted to kids but never ever would act on it, and one for people who act on their urges. It is the actual abuse of children that is the problem, not the thoughts in people's minds. We want to help protect kids, but some of the kids who have been abused become abusers. If they can be helped, especially before they act on their urges, that help should be made available. If they want help we should remember that they might well have been victims themselves and direct them to counselors who have had some success

EricKaliberhall ago

We do have a term for those fuckers! It's called Pedophile!

Kacey ago

If you have ever wished someone dead are you a murderer? If you have ever wished you had something that someone else owns are you a thief? If you have ever had sexual thoughts about someone not your spouse are you an adulterer?

Pizzalawyer ago

Interesting analogy. I'm going to cogitate on this one for awhile because at the moment I don't have a comeback , is one needed?

Kacey ago

I would be interested in a reply. I have seen the stories of virtuous pedophiles and find them a bit creepy. This story much less so. But we all have thoughts and impulses that we don't act on and we don't usually even tell anyone about them. In fact not acting on impulses to do things we know are wrong is something to be admired. Better if we never have those impulses at all, but if we don't have them what is the merit in not acting on impulses we don't have. Sexual impulses seem to be in a different category as we have an idea of what is "normal" and what is not. OTOH I have no desire for jewelry and don't understand other people's desire for it. So I never have an impulse to want to acquire a diamond, legally or illegally. Does that make those who look at diamond adds and wish for them worse than me?
Further if someone has sexual preferences that we think are abnormal because they were victims of sexual abuse when they were young, do we suddenly loose they sympathy we had for them because they were victims? I would suggest that if they don't act on them we admire them for being a victim that doesn't want to perpetuate the victimization. If they are seeking help so much the better.