When I was growing up I began to detest any touching from my mother. It wasn't until I got older that I realized there was a sexual content to her touching that made it feel creepy to me. I fended her off but she went somewhat farther with my brother. I suspect that she had been abused as a child. I don't know how far she would have gone if we hadn't fended her off. I doubt that many kids at all feel any sexual interest in their parents UNLESS they get signals from their parents that that is how to get other things they want.
Just being a parent or caretaker does not mean you are suddenly good at raising kids or moral in the way you do it. That is why we have societal laws. Since car seats have been shown to save lives we make parents use them whether or not the parents want. Kids would always prefer not being restrained. We don't leave it up to the parents or the kids. When society should step in regarding parents and kids is a tricky issue for sure, but parents don't become saints when they become parents and thus society has to address parent/child issues. Adults are held to task for how they conduct themselves in other areas of life, surely they can be held to task for issues of how they raise their children. Some parents think it is OK to beat their children for their own good to the point of breaking bones. Do we interfere. Of course we do.
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Kacey ago
When I was growing up I began to detest any touching from my mother. It wasn't until I got older that I realized there was a sexual content to her touching that made it feel creepy to me. I fended her off but she went somewhat farther with my brother. I suspect that she had been abused as a child. I don't know how far she would have gone if we hadn't fended her off. I doubt that many kids at all feel any sexual interest in their parents UNLESS they get signals from their parents that that is how to get other things they want.
Just being a parent or caretaker does not mean you are suddenly good at raising kids or moral in the way you do it. That is why we have societal laws. Since car seats have been shown to save lives we make parents use them whether or not the parents want. Kids would always prefer not being restrained. We don't leave it up to the parents or the kids. When society should step in regarding parents and kids is a tricky issue for sure, but parents don't become saints when they become parents and thus society has to address parent/child issues. Adults are held to task for how they conduct themselves in other areas of life, surely they can be held to task for issues of how they raise their children. Some parents think it is OK to beat their children for their own good to the point of breaking bones. Do we interfere. Of course we do.