I hear you - at least I think I do. Your brother is gay - but was born as a boy.

Gender fluidity freaks the fuck out of people when, in reality it matter so little.

If it matter so little - then why are they making such extreme decisions? I just feel that a an adult and making these decisions is different than as a child - your still coming to understand yourself.

Perhaps i'm being ignorant - I don't know for sure.