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SheSaidDestroy ago

I haven't been contributing with research, I'm not really smart enough for it, I don't think, but am supportive of civilians digging into things for a good cause (and there is no more justified cause than trying to protect children IMO). But that said, I have lived with this feeling my entire life, as I grew up in a town where covert and organized child abuse was happening, centered around a church. So even my developing childhood perceptions included watching many people turn a blind eye to things or shame victims into silence, in order to cover their own butts or in some cases to just not have to "deal with" the situation. They viewed their own anxiety having to "deal with" a reality of child abuse to be more significant than the suffering of the child victims. There hasn't been a day in my remembered, waking life when I wasn't aware of how such things tend to work and unfold.

Best I can offer is to remember that if you are a mess psychologically and physiologically, then you won't be able to help much, even if you really want to. Make sure to get proper sleep and don't spend too many night too often awake until dawn, obsessing and losing sleep. Take an occasional day off and connect with someone in person whom you at least mostly trust, do something together you would normally enjoy, recuperate, basically. Those of us who have been victims and have been waiting for age of awareness and people giving shit, we have been waiting for a long time, many of us now grown old or passed away. If you need a couple days off to recuperate and be at the top of your game, then by all means, take the time to do so.