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TrevorLahey ago

Of the 3 gay males I have personally known close enough to have knowledge of their family situations and upbringing, all three have fit this or very similar profile -- absent or overly-abusive father and smothering/sheltering mothers.

ProgNaziGator ago

Asking for a friend, what would a cold distant mother but sheltering father create?

TrevorLahey ago

No experience on which to base an answer. I don't claim "definitive cause" either based on my observations, only noting that the subset with which I have had personal experience fits the claim.

As for "other sides of the coin," my ex-wife and her younger sister were sexually molested by an uncle at a young age. I attribute my former sister-in-law's supposed lesbian lifestyle and same-sex marriage to that, though I personally think she's used that as a shield of sorts to avoid any physical relationships. As for my ex-wife, well, there's also a considerable degree of withdrawal and relationship difficulties there as well.

I see common threads of emotional trauma at young ages and adult lifestyles that deviate from the conventional heterosexual norms. Not a doctor or psychologist, I just debug computer software for a living.