OK, this is a really touchy subject. Why is there all of a sudden a huge increase in porn viewing? Almost always men. Some women, but I may be wrong, I think they follow along to please their men or they think they need to join in to be cool. They also watch when they are in the industry, sucked in because they have been forced or need the money to feed a child or themselves. Here comes the hard part. Are these men having a difficult time having sex with their partner (if you know what I mean) and are afraid to bring this up so they are watching porrn? Is something happening or being done to create this problem? There seems to be a very large number of men doing this, it is like an explosion. Also, there would be a monetary reason for this problem to be created. Right? Videos Videos and more Videos of Porn. Money Money and More Money.
Women are very much into porn. It is women's porn that elucidates how porn works. Stay tuned for what you are not expecting in a few paragraphs. This is one of my favorite topics and I have been scrutinizing this for decades.
Porn activates the pleasure sensors in the brain. It is a push button brain candy that predates the digital age. As you watch more porn and coordinate pleasure seeking and porn (masturbation) it dulls certain aspects of life that would normally lead to pleasure (sex with your partner or masturbation based on imagination). Porn is the product that creates a pemanent customer. It offers a substitute to sex that is usually much more readily available and also requires zero effort. From a sex education standpoint (in consulting) I was able to talk about this with men between 20-80 and it's very interesting. Most men are completely oblivious to how porn plays their fiddle. However, once the trick is revealed, it makes porn inefficient. It's not necessarily a great red pill to swallow if it removes from your choices something you enjoy. It's fine to watch porn as long as you know it provides no nutrition and will contribute to someone being lonely for the rest of their life (I said lonely, not alone).
So, recently I have discovered women porn and it's a godsend. What is women porn? Pinterest or any site that has infinite scroll. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, unboxing videos, etc. are methods to excite the "Surprise me! What's next?" part of the brain that is often excited by porn. This non-sexual form of brain candy is incredibly similar but it doesn't carry with it the shame that gets lopped onto anything sexual.
What makes me the saddest about young men today is that they discover sex as a product rather than as an activity. Sex has been intermediated by people who perform non-pleasurable activities that are unsafe for women. The style of porn depicts men having sex AT women rather than WITH women. It helps explain the immense amount of dissatisfaction women have with male partners. Also, statistically, the amount of life satisfaction men exhibit is inverse to the amount of porn they consume. Of course I could only come up with this stats from talking to 40-50 men about this topic specifically so it is not a universal fact.
Wow. Thank you for your very candid report. So possibly spilling the beans to the men about the effect that porn has could be a possible cure. They for sure are in their wonderful world not suspecting what is going on, just like being in the middle of any addiction. I also think a sad think is that fathers are not talking to their sons about this. Of course a lot of them are porn watchers themselves. But those that have young sons need this to be part of that Man to Boy Sex Talk. If they are not doing this, they are doing a great disservice to their sons.
The questions about sex I get from people in their 20s are absolutely astounding and show that sex education is absent from most people's childhood. However, those who have co-opted sex to sell young men everything (I call them douchebag overlords of the seduction industrial complex) make young men think they know everything about sex because they have spent a decade consuming porn. The only thing men know about sex that they didn't know in the 1950's is that women definitely do not have teeth down there.
We must make sure that we talk to our men those that have tween sons. They must take responsibility for their sexual knowledge, and I mean true words, not stuff Grampa told you. Although, that may be even better than what they learn from porn. There has been a large lapse in this regard. Also, a few words from Mom and the female side is a good thing too. They need to know how a female feels about certain things. They have been made to believe all kinds of false ideas by listening to their idols, ads, and movies. They need their Dads Straight Talk.
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kestrel9 ago
Also discusses the use of porn to cause degeneracy, in a purposeful destabilization of a society for political reasons.
carmencita ago
OK, this is a really touchy subject. Why is there all of a sudden a huge increase in porn viewing? Almost always men. Some women, but I may be wrong, I think they follow along to please their men or they think they need to join in to be cool. They also watch when they are in the industry, sucked in because they have been forced or need the money to feed a child or themselves. Here comes the hard part. Are these men having a difficult time having sex with their partner (if you know what I mean) and are afraid to bring this up so they are watching porrn? Is something happening or being done to create this problem? There seems to be a very large number of men doing this, it is like an explosion. Also, there would be a monetary reason for this problem to be created. Right? Videos Videos and more Videos of Porn. Money Money and More Money.
EvaEverywhere ago
Women are very much into porn. It is women's porn that elucidates how porn works. Stay tuned for what you are not expecting in a few paragraphs. This is one of my favorite topics and I have been scrutinizing this for decades.
Porn activates the pleasure sensors in the brain. It is a push button brain candy that predates the digital age. As you watch more porn and coordinate pleasure seeking and porn (masturbation) it dulls certain aspects of life that would normally lead to pleasure (sex with your partner or masturbation based on imagination). Porn is the product that creates a pemanent customer. It offers a substitute to sex that is usually much more readily available and also requires zero effort. From a sex education standpoint (in consulting) I was able to talk about this with men between 20-80 and it's very interesting. Most men are completely oblivious to how porn plays their fiddle. However, once the trick is revealed, it makes porn inefficient. It's not necessarily a great red pill to swallow if it removes from your choices something you enjoy. It's fine to watch porn as long as you know it provides no nutrition and will contribute to someone being lonely for the rest of their life (I said lonely, not alone).
So, recently I have discovered women porn and it's a godsend. What is women porn? Pinterest or any site that has infinite scroll. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, unboxing videos, etc. are methods to excite the "Surprise me! What's next?" part of the brain that is often excited by porn. This non-sexual form of brain candy is incredibly similar but it doesn't carry with it the shame that gets lopped onto anything sexual.
What makes me the saddest about young men today is that they discover sex as a product rather than as an activity. Sex has been intermediated by people who perform non-pleasurable activities that are unsafe for women. The style of porn depicts men having sex AT women rather than WITH women. It helps explain the immense amount of dissatisfaction women have with male partners. Also, statistically, the amount of life satisfaction men exhibit is inverse to the amount of porn they consume. Of course I could only come up with this stats from talking to 40-50 men about this topic specifically so it is not a universal fact.
carmencita ago
Wow. Thank you for your very candid report. So possibly spilling the beans to the men about the effect that porn has could be a possible cure. They for sure are in their wonderful world not suspecting what is going on, just like being in the middle of any addiction. I also think a sad think is that fathers are not talking to their sons about this. Of course a lot of them are porn watchers themselves. But those that have young sons need this to be part of that Man to Boy Sex Talk. If they are not doing this, they are doing a great disservice to their sons.
EvaEverywhere ago
The questions about sex I get from people in their 20s are absolutely astounding and show that sex education is absent from most people's childhood. However, those who have co-opted sex to sell young men everything (I call them douchebag overlords of the seduction industrial complex) make young men think they know everything about sex because they have spent a decade consuming porn. The only thing men know about sex that they didn't know in the 1950's is that women definitely do not have teeth down there.
carmencita ago
We must make sure that we talk to our men those that have tween sons. They must take responsibility for their sexual knowledge, and I mean true words, not stuff Grampa told you. Although, that may be even better than what they learn from porn. There has been a large lapse in this regard. Also, a few words from Mom and the female side is a good thing too. They need to know how a female feels about certain things. They have been made to believe all kinds of false ideas by listening to their idols, ads, and movies. They need their Dads Straight Talk.